What if falling in love is not something that happens to you, but something that you create by the choices you make?

Link to source: To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This (Updated With Podcast) – The New York Times

Do we really want to have a greater level of intimacy with others?  Why does intimacy scare us so much? What would happen if we were in a community in which the norm was to have the deepest level of intimacy with each other that we could?